“It would be very precious: to be oneself is worth a high price."-Carl Rogers
What's therapy like?
I practice within the framework of Relational Psychotherapy and am being formally trained in Existential Analysis. The central idea of relational psychotherapy is that the patterns of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, whether healthy or unhealthy, are directly related to the patterns of your relationships. Through persistent and constant empathy, I will share your experiences, wrestle with and metabolize them alongside you and help you process them in a new way.
I cant emphasis this enough: it’s important for you to keep showing up even if you have nothing to talk about or absolutely hate me. The greatest shifts in the journey of therapy and working on yourself happens in these moments. The more you give, the more you’re gonna get out.
The cliched question, “How does that make you feel?” really is one of the greatest questions within this work. Feelings have rich and valuable data wrapped within them to take us to a new place. It is within feelings that you find opportunity to make more connection.
I am not the expert of who you are. This may seem strange at first, since our current culture demands certainty and a “fix” by going to see the expert. Genuine therapy, however, is about collaboration: the therapist and client together creating a new way for you to relate to others.
I’m here to help you understand yourself as we show up with one another.
In time, the goal is that you would be able to accept your story, your emotions, even the painful ones, and the self you have become. Therapy is a process of (re)connection, and it can be a slow process, but bit by bit you will set in stone new habits or ways of relating to yourself and others that are sustainable and long-term. It takes only a moment to be hurt, and it can take months or years to heal.
This work is not about getting rid of parts of yourself. It’s about taking in and making sense of the material of life, and to do this you need courage, humility, and the wisdom that comes from experience. One of my favorite authors and theorists, Wilfred Bion, claimed that the majority of our theories are false constructs that aim to calm the anxiety of not knowing, because not knowing is so difficult for to tolerate. This is a business of learning to tolerate and even befriend the unknown.
Existential therapy is profoundly different from the medical model. I tend to lean away from “categories” and “diagnoses.” In some cases like insurance billing and invoicing they are a necessity. This work is not driven by labels, criteria, and treatment plans. Placing a diagnosis on someone puts them into a box, limiting the opportunity to see them for their uniqueness and significance. Just like the quote above says, we need to get beyond the labels, judgements, or ethics of a thing to really try to understand. It limits your possibilities in life. Though we may begin working through your anxiousness at work, with friends, or significant other, where we are going is far beyond you being able to get through the day. I want to try to understand you, not a textbook diagnosis for what may be only a small part of who you are.
I believe that we are all products of our past, and that we continue to live it out in the here-and-now, which is the culmination of our past, present and future. Who we are now is influenced by the past and has a tremendous amount of influence on our present and where we are headed in the future.
The ‘problems’ you bring into the work of therapy are rooted in your early-life nurturing relationships and sustained within current problematic ones. We are all in constant interaction with these stories.
What matters most is the process of making meaning out of the material of your life. I believe that we all carry with us an existential pain, which shows itself in many ways, depending on our life experiences. For that reason I think some things are to be lived with – in tension. I don’t believe that we ever 'arrive' in life or reach a place of perpetual youth and happiness. This is a delusion that distracts us from the true task of living. Life is a journey and a process of continual growth where we are constantly becoming more and more at home within ourselves, despite the hardships.
I offer a safe, comfortable space to process your feelings, and to begin toward change. Relationships have the power to hurt us, but it is also within relationships that we can be healed. A more authentic and connected sense of self is possible together. Psychotherapy is a costly endeavor, particularly when you are paying out of pocket. But I truly believe the benefits in nearly every area of your life far exceed the financial cost.
Twenty minute consultation.
I offer a 20 minute in-person consultation for $50 to see what your goals are, what your concerns are, your experience in therapy, all to see if we are a therapeutic fit. Please note that this is not a therapy session but is intended to see if we are a fit.
$130.00 + Convenience Fee for Debit/Credit Card for a 50 minute session.
$170.00 + Convenience Fee for Debit/Credit Card for a 50 minute session.
I also take a limited number of clients on a sliding scale. Please inquire.
Using Your Insurance
I am an out-of-network provider, but we can navigate this. What this means is that you will pay our agreed upon rate at the beginning of the hour. 95% of my clients have had good luck getting reimbursements from their insurance company. Reimbursements are typically delivered within 2 weeks of submission.
Payment is due at the beginning of the session. I accept cash, checks, and debit/credit card are automatically processed overnight.
Therapy does not successfully progress unless it happens regularly and frequently. For this reason I have a policy that clients must meet with me at least weekly. How frequently we meet depends on a variety of factors. Dialogue and ongoing review will allow us to consider a frequency that will be most useful to you. Once we decide to work together, it is best to find appointment times that are workable for both of us, and that will be consistent from week to week. It’s within regular weekly contact with one another that allows the healing conversation and presence to not only emerge, but be sustained. That being said, I understand that certain types of careers may involve an irregular or inconsistent schedule, and I am more than happy to work with that.